NEVER LOSE HOPE IN DUAA
One of the common complaints of many of us Muslims is that when we make Dua, we don't see its immediate effects. As a result, we get disheartened and lose hope in the effectiveness and powers of our Duaa. There may be an interest to be served by delay, and haste may be harmful.
Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam has said: "A person will be fine so long as he does not become impatient and says, I prayed but I did not receive any answer.'"
The response may be withheld because of some fault in you. Perhaps there was something dubious in what you ate or your heart was heedless at the time when you made the Duaa, or your punishment is being decreased by means of your need being withheld, because of some sin from which you have not repented sincerely. So look for some of these reasons, so that you might achieve your aim.
You should examine the intention behind this request, because attaining it may lead to more sin, or prevent you from doing some good, so withholding it is better. Perhaps losing what you have missed out on will cause you to turn to Allah and getting it will distract you from Him. This is obvious, based on the fact that were it not for this calamity you would not have turned to Him, because the real calamity is what distracts you from Him, but what makes you stand before Him is good for you and is in your best interests.
If you ponder over these things you will focus on what is more beneficial for you, such as correcting a mistake or seeking forgiveness or standing before Allah and beseeching Him, and forget about what you have missed out on.
It was narrated that Faddalah ibn Ubayd said: Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam heard a man making Duaa after his prayer, but he did not send blessings upon Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam. Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam said: "This man is in a hurry." He then called him and said to him or to someone else: "When any one of you has finished praying (and makes dua), let him start by praising Allah, then let him send blessings upon the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him), then after that let him ask for whatever he wants." (Sunan al-Tirmidhi, 2765.)
Nabi Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam said: "The slave will receive a response so long as his Duaa does not involve sin or severing of family ties, and so long as he is not hasty."It was said, "What does being hasty mean?" Nabi Sallallahu alaihi Wa Sallam said: "When he says, ‘I made Duaa and I made Duaa, and I have not seen any response,' he gets frustrated and stops making Duaa." (Bukahari, 6340; Muslim, 2735)
Finally, for those of us who have abandoned the practice of Duaa, we may be missing something quite important. Wishing is not the same thing as making a Duaa. We may keep wishing our wishes but we have a better chance of seeing them materialized when we actually make the effort to enter the state of Duaa and ask Allah Ta'aalawhat we want
The Almighty Allah says,
"When a servant thinks of Me, I am near.
When he invokes Me, I am with him.
If he reflects on Me in secret, I reply in secret,
And if he acknowledges Me in an assembly,
I acknowledge him in a far superior assembly."
- Prophet Muhammad (SAW), as reptd by Abu Huraira