You know I married a guy who was not good looking, because I believe a good heart generally shines thro and so too the opposite.
He was also poor, and I paid for his education, I helped him study and backed him up when he felt down, I reassured him and supported him when he wanted to give up and start earning money as a cleaner etc
I also married outside of my country/comfort zone whatever.
I am more educated than him, I have a degree, however his qualifications are more vocational, so could be considered comparable to mine, but at point of marriage I was more educated than him.
I come from a more wealthy family. His family wanted to pay me something like one hundred rupees as Mahr! And proceeded to try and argue the Mahr down, even tho it was already set very low to begin with.
I don't know whether I'm ugly or not. I've been called all sorts throughout my life, I'm pretty much the opposite in looks to the ex. He used to call me ugly by the way, I was too skinny, too short(try and rectify that one), altho he and his family had all seen me before proposing marriage, I hadn't been wearing shoes at the time, so they had a good idea how tall/short I was I'm 5'3" so not exactly a midget!
In retaliation I never once called him names, altho he was completely blind in one eye, he objected to the fact that I wore glasses, altho again he knew this, so I wore contact lenses (paid for by me) as much as possible to please him!
Result: When he was outside his family's censor, when he had the education, when he got the required level of job experience and when he had the passport colour he wanted he screwed around.....
I'm now left with children and an ex, who wants me to take my children out of an Islamic school because its expensive (the full years fees are less than half of his monthly salary after tax), I have huge debt in my name which he took out, meanwhile he drives round in an air conditioned car (paid for by me), with his girlfriend living in a huge house (paid for by re-mortgaging the home I live in without my knowledge or consent). Worse he wants to take my children from me and send them 'back home' where he will pay a pittance for their maintenance and live it up here going out with all these women, yes I am sure it is completely platonic, the women who he dines, and drives around and entertains and lives with are sisters to him etc etc etc.
My point, do I have one, and yes I had initially posted this rant on the wrong thread.
My point, a man who dismisses a woman for something so trivial of complexion is not worth thinking about. I would strongly advise holding out till a guy who ticks most (if not all) boxes comes along, at least someone who ticks the big boxes.
When a woman is stuck in a bad marriage, she is advised to be patient, pray, change herself, repent for her sins, think of the children etc etc etc. women are generally stuck unless they're very lucky indeed.
Having been there, done that and got the non molestation order against the person who was meant to be the one who protected me. I'd say be grateful of every rejection, who wants to end up with a man who wants a wife with a flawless complexion for example, how long does a pale flawless complexion last anyway, as the poem goes, youth is but an hour.....