Salam Sis/Bro anon
I red a wonderful book several years ago roughly entitled Discipline is education not punishment. Subhanallah...it really gave me good insights on the concept of discipline. For example, character is shaped not enforced. So in shaping character one needs to educate kids on what constitutes good and what constitutes bad. Be very clear on what is childish exuberance and what is misbehaving. If they run around the house, do not scold them for running because well..children run
Rather EDUCATE them on the harmful effects of running around the house.
There is also another wonderful book entitled; Talk so they will listen, listen so they will talk. Very practical book on how to communicate with children.
As a parent, I find that I have to reflect on MY value systems, MY assumptions and MY prejudices more often than I reflect on my kids' behaviour. Because after all...our children is the product of OUR parenting skills.
Hope I helped Insha'Allah.