Peace be on the followers of guidance,
Dear seeker of truth,
I am so happy to hear that you have come to learn about the true religion, the truth by which you will attain eternal success in the Afterlife, insha Allah. May Allah guide you and make you firm on the religion of truth. You are only a few short steps away from erasing all your past sins and coming to the Light of Allah. Let me address your concerns one by one:
"But I'm confused because where I am from a woman walks behind the man,"
Islam honors women, and gives them a distinction even men do not have: Allah named an entire Chapter in the Quran: The Women (Surah 4), which details her rights and responsibilites in society.
In Islam, women are not treated like sex-objects that every man enjoys.
In Islam, women are entitled to full protection and financial support by their husbands, who must not cheat on them.
A man must obey his mother, as long as it does not involve disobeying Allah.
Where a man and woman walk is based on culture. Islam does not teach that men should walk in front of women. However, it does teach that one should be devoted to one's spouse and not look at other men and women in the street with desire.
" and a woman must drop there gaze at men."
As sister Sofia mentioned, this ruling is for both men and women. Islam encourages chastity, purity, and morality, both outwardly, and in one's thoughts and desires. Thus, it is not right for a man to look at a woman who is not his wife lustfully, or vice-versa. May Allah make it easy for us to obey Him.
"I have male friends and I don't know if I want to walk behind
my one day husband"
Do not worry. InshaAllah Allah will make it easy for you to find a righteous husband who will honor you. However, in Islam we do not have boyfriends or girlfriends, since this could lead to illicit relationships and sex outside of marriage, adultery,etc.
"I need some guidence and help. I do belienve Allah is the one true and
All praise be to Allah. You have done the right thing by seeking the truth. Now don't hesitate, the only thing left for you is to pronounce your faith: "I bear witness that there is no god except Allah, and I bear witness that Muhammad (peace be upon him) is His Messenger."
Welcome to the truth