I really noticed though how the Muslims there seem to be so much more integrated in to the wider American culture, whereas I don't think, we, the British Muslim community have really integrated to the same extent here.
A fair point I would say mostly because the sheer numbers of Muslims now in certain areas of the UK makes it easy in not having to integrate.
In America, there does not seem to be that critical mass.
and then had a bit of a crazy tour of Philly at 2am, which included us having a race with a group of Muslims we just met at the Rocky stairs
The Rocky stairs would definitely be the main reason I would go to Philly!!!
Jogging down that main road, breaking into a fast run and then sprinting up those stairs, waving arms wildly at the top and shouting "Yo Adrian" at the top of your voice
Of course the reality is that you're more likely to be bent double when you reach the top such that some people may think you are doing a voluntary sujood
Sounds like a really nice trip!!
If you and your interpretations of Hadith are correct, she still has nothing to loss from going to a Musjid and seeking advice from the Ulima. She and her parents have nothing to lose by repenting and fearing Allah.
How sad that you chose to continue arguing. I honestly thought you were better than that.
What you clearly fail to realise is that you have potentially falsely accused this sister's parents of committing something haram (slander) or at best potentially only backbitten them.
As a reminder, slander is a major sin in Islam, worse than backbiting which in itself is a major sin 70 times worse than adultery.
My apologies for stressing this but this is not a trivial matter and on the Day of Judgement we are going to wish we guarded our tongues when the sins relating to it [the tongue] become apparent.
What's worse, however in my opinion, is that when you were reminded, you chose to continue to argue your position where as the true servant of Allah would fear if he had indeed done something wrong and would make immediate recompense.
This isn't about the sister or her parents or their actions but about *your* actions.
If you don't understand the Fiqh in this thread than just humble yourself and make an effort to learn. No one is capable of knowing everything, especially in this day and age.
How sad that whilst most of us visit the board to learn and gain reward, there are some who obtain nothing but increased sins for the utterances they manifest.
Definitely something for all us to think about.