OK just want to say one more thing about this.... as a general naseeha for all of us and I'll post this publicly since the last posts were public.
If someone thinks someone is doing something wrong, they should approach the person(s) in private first and ask them questions and assume first that they, the naseeha-givers themselves, have made the wrong assumptions or are confused or got it wrong; then after ascertaining everything they can broach the topic of giving the naseeha, and only in the case where they believe without a shadow of a doubt that they are right and that they will benefit the other.
In this case, none of the above was done and I feel that was not right, especially when it casts aspersions on both me and br Abu_Khaled. We both of us were not offended or felt any hint of ridiculing and quite enjoyed playing pranks on each other. That's the type of bro/sis relationship we have. If others are offended by this, that is their personal opinion and does not give them the right to publish their personal opinion as if it's an Islamic fatwa. Last I looked playing pranks is not haram, nor is satire, fiction, irony, humor, wittiness or creative writing.
The person should have came to us personally and asked if one of us was offended or hurt or felt a line had been crossed. OR if they just plainly thought it was not funny don't bother reading those threads.
As an aside, I see this happening in our communities over and over again. I mentioned the story about the Auntie who went ballistic in front of everyone over a girl who came to Jumah wearing tight jeans and a short shirt that rode up. And it turned out the girl (who was pregnant, hence the shirt rode up) was not Muslim and was brought there by her "Muslim boyfriend" to learn about Islam. I never saw her again.
I have this theory called "the haram rises to the top" theory. Basically it's whenever Muslims are together in any type of group, the person who is most conservative, more opinionated on what is Islamic prevails. Even when they are not correct. Or when there are other valid opinions. This is something I've fought on the board for years and still am. Honestly, if you go to other sites you'll see this pattern everywhere. A group will interact, post whatever and then someone will come in with their righteousness, then everyone slinks away.
I don't want this board to be that kind of place. I want people to post without fear and be comfortable being their real selves without censure. And I want us to accept each other and benefit each other in positive ways - not negative ways. I want people to assume what others write always in a good way, and not to jump to conclusions or see it negatively.
I do believe many in our ummah are more into prohibiting the evil (as they see it and as they decide) and less about enjoining the good. But this site is about what was written in the constitution all those years ago: ARTICLE I: Purpose &Vision
Madinatul Muslimeen has been founded and built to be a fun, informative place so Muslims can get to know each other and support each other in becoming better Muslims.
In fact, I'd suggest people read the Constitution again just to reorient themselves and decide if this is the kind of place they are comfortable with: http://jannah.org/madina/index.php?topic=2.0
Lastly I'd just like to say Brother Abu Khaled has been an invaluable member of the board over the years. I know for a fact he has helped many, many posters with their questions and difficulties, and has defended many sisters from the onslaught of chauvenists and whatever. People have told me personally (in real life person) that his posts were the reason they started reading the board and getting more into Islam. I have learned a lot from his posts and personal style of writing and giving dawah. And he has given me support personally at crucial times during the evolution of this website. Every post he has written is with thought and care with the sole reason of benefiting the other. Even the ones written with irreverence have had their own purpose which others can't see. Knowledge, Hikmah and humor is something very rare. I have met him in person with my family and nothing I wrote in satire resembles reality which made it all the more funny for us but perhaps not for others. And I am sad when he leaves us for years at a time for his own studies and enrichment but understand that everyone has their own priorities.
The person who posted anonymously I'm sure did not know the above but they should have taken the time to ascertain it before posting. I think their post actually offended and perhaps in a tiny tiny way hurt br abu khaled by making assumptions about him. And he's probably left for another two years not wanting to deal with such things!!
Ok the end.