Salam to bothers and sisters in islam
this is a very good islamic site.I keep going through it's topics now and then. I request you all for your advice & suggestions.I usally feel that I am being used by people,that I try to be friendly with them without any motive,but people usually are not there for me in the time of my need.Also they do not maintain contact with me because they enjoy hanging out with me out of friendship.As long as their work is done they are all helping and cordial,as soon as I left my job and am not seeing them anymore they do not even care to maintain any contact.I feel that people are just using me and I fear to trust anyone anymore.
It sounds like you are expecting a lot from the wrong kinds of ppl. What you should do is try to distinguish between your friends. There are those who you are friendly to and they to you --acquaintances, and there's not much more there. If you are not in contact anymore it's no big deal. Especially work colleagues you can be very close when working but if you don't have that work environment anymore you find you don't have anything in common and it's actually very difficult to maintain that contact and that's fine.
And then there are closer friends that you can depend on and they can depend on you. But people who you try to maintain contact with and they don't return it, do yourself a favor and realize they're in the acquaintance group! If they're not there in your time of need they're not in the real friend group either. Friendship is a two way street and if someone only contacts you when they need/want something that should be a big tip off that they're using you.
I have to say that real friends are extremely rare in this world, even having one or two is a very lucky thing.
After awhile I think you'll be able to sort out these two groups better and understand who's a real friend and who isn't.