All praise be to Allah, Lord of the Universe, the One Who shapes in the Womb as He wishes.
According to Jannah, this thread should be locked, since there has already been several 'fatwas' posted here
It is no problem if someone posts whatever they want from their opinions and logic.
On the other hand, if someone conveys knowledge from the Quran and Sunnah, or what the Ulema have said in this regard, quoting the appropriate sources and scholars, it is forbidden.
Furthermore, quoting material found in books and other beneficial sources is forbidden if it related to knowlege of the Deen. However, if it is related to politics, jokes, health, or other topics, it is no problem.
Likewise, articles from Rabbis, lawyers, and non-Muslim texts, are applauded. But if they are written by the Ulema and Shuyukh, they are condemned as cut and paste.
These all seem like a double-standards to me.
Having despise for the knowledge because it comes between a person and his desires causes a person to become distanced from Allah, Most High, and go towards disbelief. This is based on the words of the Messenger, may Allah's peace and blessings of Allah be upon him:
"None of you believes until his or her desires become in conformity with what I have been sent with."
A person should keep in mind that they will be responsible if people go astray because they prevented the knowledge from reaching the people. They will certainly be ressurected and called to account.
Knowledge of the religion is judged by daleel, that is appropriate legal evidence. If something is mentioned that is not based on appropriate legal evidence, than please ignore it. If I mention something quoting from the scholars and fuqaha, than know that it is on the path of right guidance. Having said this, I realize that I have many shortcomings, and may not understand things appropriately, and I appreciate your advice and guidance as well. I am on this board to learn.
May Allah guide us all.
Getting back to the original question,
The scholars say it is inappropriate to form close relationships with members of the opposite sex such as co-workers, classmates, and boyfriends/girlfriends, since there is a good chance these relationships may end up in Zina and unlawful sexual relations.
Furthermore, it is not appropriate for a man and woman to be alone in a closed room. This is based on the words of the Messenger:
"A man and a woman do not stay alone in a closed room, except that the Shaitan is the third."
If a person is interested in marriage, the scholars say that the appropriate channels should be taken, such as involving a woman's guardian, or wali, in order to avoid fitnah.
Furthermore, the qualitites one should look for in spouse are righteousness and good character. May Allah guide us to find righteous spouses, and to success in the afterlife, by His will. Ameen.
And Allah knows best.