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« on: Apr 10, 2014 07:52 PM »


How Negative Energy Affects Your Life and How to Clear It

You know that like attracts like, right? So here's the deal: Positive people are drawn to positive energy; negative people are drawn to negative energy. We tend to perceive negative energy as something other people have. Sure, sometimes we feel negative – as in, “go away and leave me alone, world!” but did you know that negativity can be so ingrained in you that it goes unnoticed? That's because negativity sometimes wears a disguise called ‘reality'. It's easy to rationalize that you're ‘just being realistic' in not daring to act on a dream – and believe it! You may assume that positive people are not being realistic – that they're being naive, that they are in denial with their heads stuck in the sand, that they put on fake smiles in the face of difficulty and so forth. But are they really happy idiots or is there something to their positivity?

Consider this: since when does ‘being realistic' necessarily mean that things will go wrong and that you have to accept that as the truth? That doesn't mean that being realistic is automatically negative. When you view the world from a ‘realistic' standpoint, you can't help but be negative IF your version of reality is negative. If your version of reality is negative, you are conditioned to believe that whatever can go wrong, will go wrong and whatever can go right, will probably go wrong too. Your unconsciously held beliefs make you into a negative person without your being aware of it! So – if this negativity is so ingrained in you that you don't notice it, how do you determine whether you're stuck in a cloud of negative energy that is attracting the wrong people, wrong situations and wrong feelings? And how can you be sure you're not perpetuating that negativity?

Here's a quick quiz to gauge the level of negative energy within you:

- Do you complain? All the time or just sometimes?
- Do you often discuss what's wrong in the world more than what's right? This includes the ‘terrible' weather, ‘horrible' traffic, ‘idiotic' government, ‘lousy' economy, ‘stupid' in-laws, etc.
- Do you criticize? All the time or just certain people?
- Are you attracted to drama and disaster (can you unglue yourself from the TV when there's a news story of a disaster and can you avoid getting involved in the lives of dysfunctional celebrities?)
- Do you blame? All the time or just certain situations?
- Do you believe that you have no control over most of your results?
- Do you feel like a victim? Do you talk about people doing things to you?
- Are you grateful for what is or will you be grateful when things finally start going right for you?
- Do you feel like things are happening to you? Or do you feel that they are happening through you?

These last two points are important:

If you're not grateful except when things go right, you are negative. Gratitude is positive. If you are grateful for what is (including the unpleasant school of life lessons, then you can invite more and more positive energy into your life.)

Believing that things happen to you puts you in the role of victim; then it's easy to be negative because it's convenient to give up that power. So consider this alternative: who or what is to blame when GOOD things happen to you? Do you acknowledge that you are responsible for the good things – as in, you worked hard, you earned it, etc… but blame external events or other people for your failures? So how come, when good things happen, they are a result of what you do, but when bad things happen, they are not your fault?

Nobody likes to hear that. It takes courage to accept that you create your life experience!

If you answered yes to any of the above questions, you are holding on to negative energy to some degree! To clear your negative energy and raise your vibration, you will need to retrain yourself to choose a positive attitude.

Here's another interesting idea to consider: have you noticed that positive people seem to get what they want out of life, and even if things don't go their way, they still enjoy their lives… while negative people whine and moan about their misfortunes and even the good things in their lives?

To clear negative energy, try this 3 -step process:

1. Take ownership: “When you think everything is someone else's fault, you will suffer a lot. When you realize that everything springs only from yourself, you will learn both peace and joy.”  

2. Cancel negative thoughts and replace them with positive thoughts. This takes practice, dedication and making a decision to see the world through the eyes of “what can go right” instead of “what can go wrong.” You'll have to catch yourself anytime you are acting out or speaking out your negativity, and immediately change your tune.

3. Use the Spiritual Toolkit to clear your energy and bring more light and love into your life; visualize the positive instead of getting sucked into negativity; overcome past conditioning; think intuitively from the soul instead from ‘reality'; create a new, desired reality in your imagination and manifest it in the outer world. Nobody wants negative energy to permeate their lives, yet many of us allow it. But we allow it unconsciously, based on past conditioning that suggests an inevitable outcome to certain situations. When you overcome that conditioning and realize that the future is NOT cast in stone but that you have more control over your circumstances than you believe – then you can begin to consciously design your life.

What's going to happen then? Your positive energy will magnetically attract what you consider to be good and right for you: people, situations, things… and you'll notice a huge, huge increase in your happiness and inner peace.

Why not choose positive energy? Make some changes within, and you'll quickly see positive changes in your life. Enjoy the good feelings and abundance!


"Do not treat people with contempt, nor walk insolently on the earth. Allah does not love the arrogant or the self-conceited boaster. Be modest in your bearing and subdue your voice, for the most unpleasant of voices is the braying of the ass." [The Holy Qur'an, Surah Luqman - 31:18-19]
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« Reply #1 on: Apr 11, 2014 03:05 AM »

Nice post, but I want to disagree with one of the initial points of negative people being drawn to negative energy.  I have found it common for negative people to be drawn to positive energy, in an unfortunate manner.  The negative people are often drawn to the positive energy, because they see something that is missing and desirable in their life.  Unfortunately, their negativism causes them to suck the life out of anything positive, transforming it to a negative if allowed.  They are leeches, constantly latching on to positive energy, sucking it dry, then moving on to the next.  Positive people must take care to avoid allowing these poisonous people into their lives.  Constantly being around one of those people described in the initial post above can be very draining and detrimental. 
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« Reply #2 on: Apr 11, 2014 09:42 PM »

As-salaamu` alaykum,
Dear sister,
Good point, this is a vast topic and I’m glad you explained that there is other way of looking into things madinaflag

Yes, I try to surround myself with positive people, because negative people are so depressing to be around (even online).
Juma`Mubarak!      

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« Reply #3 on: Today at 04:46 PM »

Interesting, that it mentioned the ‘traffic’ scenario… I think if you don’t personalize things, its actually quite stress free…

Addicted to negativity and unhappiness (i.e, Pain Body)

Until the awareness arises, you are identified with the voice in your head, and it becomes your superficial personality. The content of the Egoic mind with its repetitive thought patterns can be: judgments, prejudices, likes and dislikes. Many of us are trapped in the Egoic mind, and conditioned by the past, but this is not who we really are. This addiction to negative thoughts in our head is the root to our problems. We have lost ourselves in the mind and our thoughts.

Recognize that there is a voice in your head that doesn’t stop speaking. Notice what the voice is saying. Catch yourself as you think a negative thought, more and more often. Practice this awareness everyday. Realize that it’s just a story that you have been telling yourself, about yourself, and that is all it is: a story that you keep repeating.

Nothing that has happened to you in the past can prevent you from being in the now, where the power is. Remember that the past has no power. The power comes with the awareness that there is a “voice in your head”. When you are present and aware of your thoughts, the thoughts can’t control you. This means that the power is in the now.

Pain-body is part of the Ego and is a very unhappy entity. It is an energy field inside your body that is formed by negative thoughts and emotions that you are experiencing. Pain body can manifest itself as: illness, anger, stress, fear etc. Pain-body seeks unhappiness and unpleasant experiences that matches its energy field, because pain-body feeds on negativity. Its very existence consists of this unhappy vibration and the pain-body doesn’t want an end to this unhappiness because this would mean an end to the pain-body.

When the pain-body awakens it will seek drama to feed it self. This is very common in close relationships. The pain-body tends to push the partner’s “button” to bring a negative reaction. It’s easier to realize the pain-body in someone else. You require more presence to see it in yourself. One sign that your pain-body is awakening is when you react strongly with intense emotions that are greater than the external trigger (e.g. a simple remark from your partner makes you furious). If you are present in this moment and say: “oh there’s my pain body”, it means that you are not at the mercy of your pain-body.

If you hold on to your negative stories, and memories in your thoughts and feelings, they become fuel for your pain-body. In order to release your pain-body, you need to recognize your negative thought patterns. You become aware when you practice presence and catch yourself with a negative thought, over and over again. So, next time a negative thought and/or emotion arise, become aware and face them. Say to yourself: “oh, here’s that negative thought again” or “here’s that unpleasant feeling” Accept this thought/feeling, without any judgments. Your awareness of your Egoic mind means that it’s no longer controlling you. Then, focus only on your feelings, without thinking anything. Just accept your feelings as they are. When you are present, a sense of peace arises, and the unpleasant emotion automatically resolves. By being aware and present, you release your pain-body.

When you become aware, your thoughts will not have control over you. Instead, you will regain your true power that is only found in the now. When you are present, you will manage your thoughts (and thereby your emotions). In this state of mind, you release your pain-body.

When you are stuck in your pain body your emotions will rise into your mind. So when you feel sadness, you will think thoughts that make you sad, and if you feel angry, you will think thoughts that are angry etc. This means that all your interpretation of people and event will become totally distorted and very negative when you are stuck in your pain body. Pain body loves this negative energy because it feed on your negativity and unconsciously seeks more pain, that is to say, they want something bad to happen. This negative cycle continues as long as you are completely identified with your emotions, but you need to realize that you are not your emotion.

You can release your past and whatever happened to you that you keep repeating for yourself, by entering a more heightened state of awareness. You can release your “story” that you keep telling yourself, by becoming present and alert enough when your pain body becomes active, so that the negative emotion will not be able to control your mind.

How to break free from your “pain body”

•   To break free of the pain body, you need to lose the identification of it.
•   You are not the emotion. You are the awareness behind the emotion.
•   Become aware of your pain body. This awareness causes a shift. If you completely identify yourself with the emotion, it rises into your mind, and it will control your thinking.
•   Feel the emotion without any thoughts. Accept whatever you feel at this moment. When you resist a situation or a feeling, it  persists, and then it causes stress and creates further negative emotion that wants to deny what is there.
•   Say “yes” to whatever arises and become friendly with the present moment, even if the present moment doesn’t look that great in the moment. Allow the feeling even if it makes you sad, angry etc. Surrender to the feeling. Then choose to do something about that, or not.

For example, when you feel a negative emotion arising at the beginning of what could become an argument, be aware that you at this time have a mental position that is your Ego and feel the uncomfortable emotion that is part of your pain body. Now, accept this emotion and become still. Don’t get drawn into opposing the other person in any way. When you become peaceful, the argument has to resolve. When you have no drama within yourself, there can not be any drama in your experience.

Other opportunities to resolve your pain body is if you personalize the “traffic” and get angry when people are cutting the line in front of you. When you are regarding the “event” as a personal insult, remind yourself that this is the Ego talking. The angry feeling that has now become active is your pain body. Feel and accept this angry emotion and stay present. As you become aware of your pain body, a shift within you will take place and your pain body will no longer have the control over you. This means that your emotions will no longer control your thoughts and behavior. This also means that you won’t get stressed from the event.

Also, next time you get stuck in traffic, remind yourself that this has nothing to do with you. When there is nothing you can do to change a situation, be with it. Say “yes” and become friendly with it. Use the time to meditate instead. These are wonderful “life lessons” and opportunities to learn acceptance and surrender.

If you, on the other hand, observe that you are not accepting and surrendering to the situation, then it’s a wonderful opportunity to learn about dysfunction, and observe how dysfunction arises. This is an important step towards awareness.

"Do not treat people with contempt, nor walk insolently on the earth. Allah does not love the arrogant or the self-conceited boaster. Be modest in your bearing and subdue your voice, for the most unpleasant of voices is the braying of the ass." [The Holy Qur'an, Surah Luqman - 31:18-19]
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