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« on: Jun 12, 2008 04:22 PM »


How often do we hear or get to read about bad news in a marriage?  Well, hear is one that is truly touching!  Mashaallah!
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Carry me in your arms.A touching story  ...

Abu Hurairah narrated that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) said: "The believers who show the most perfect faith are those who have the best disposition and the best of you are those who are best to their wives."

When I got home that night as my wife Ameena served dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn't know how to say it. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. Ameena didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, Ismail why? I avoided her question. This made her angry. She shouted at me, "you are not a man!"

That night, we didn't talk to each other. Ameena was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Mary Anne. I didn't love Ameena anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it to pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said, for I loved Mary Anne so dearly.

Finally Ameena cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me, her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell fast asleep because I was tired after an eventful day with Mary Anne. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did'nt care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month, we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son Ahmed had his exams in a month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy.

Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request. I told Mary Anne about my wife's divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she has, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully. Ameena and I hadn't had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son Ahmed clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, don't tell Ahmed about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest.. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to Ameena .

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn't tell Mary Anne about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily. Suddenly it hit me, .. she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.

Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head. Our son Ahmed came in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. Ameena gestured to our son to come close and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Ahmed had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked intimacy.

I drove to office... jumped o ut of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind... I walked upstairs. Mary Anne opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Mary Anne, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished. Then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Mary Anne, I said, I won't divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other any more. Now I realized that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until one of us departs this world.

Mary Anne seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The sales girl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote: I will carry you out every morning until one of us leaves this world!

The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build a relationship.

Allah says in the Qur'an:"Men are the supporters of women, because Allah has stowed on the one more than the other, and for what they have to provide (for them) from their sources. So the righteous women are obedient and protect in the absence of their husbands that which God ordains to be protected."(Qur'an 4:34)

Allah says in the Qur'an:"And the believing men and the believing women, they are the friends of each other, they enjoin good and forbid evil, and establish prayers, and pay the alms, and obey God and His Messenger, these, upon them God will have mercy, indeed, God is almighty, All-wise." (Qur'an 9:71)

Prophet[p.b.u.h] said, "The best of you is he who is the best to his family, and I am the best to my family"

Courtesy:[Full_Islam] Carry me In your Arms(Touching Story)

The Almighty Allah says,

"When a servant thinks of Me, I am near.
When he invokes Me, I am with him.
If he reflects on Me in secret, I reply in secret,
And if he acknowledges Me in an assembly,
I acknowledge him in a far superior assembly."

- Prophet Muhammad (SAW), as reptd by Abu Huraira
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« Reply #1 on: Jun 12, 2008 06:30 PM »

salaam..I thought I posted this somewhere.. hmm maybe in the old board.. but a comment I saw stuck out on Suhebb Webbs blog , a comment for this story. I never thought about it before when I read this story, I thought as others , how wonderful .. but this is an important point

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June 12th, 2008 at 10:06 am
nice story - but what happens to mary anne? just left like that? how dare a muslim man have an affair with a non mahram woman? and changes his mind as he pleases? no regrets on that? no wonder the muslims are held on such low esteem by others.

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« Reply #2 on: Jun 12, 2008 06:49 PM »

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The small details of our lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, the property, the bank balance that matters. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those little things for each other that build a relationship.

Indeed. I think that's one of the main problems; so be a friend to your spouse ... because, if you're friends first then even if you disagree/argue you can still sit down in peace and reconcile your differences!

"Do not treat people with contempt, nor walk insolently on the earth. Allah does not love the arrogant or the self-conceited boaster. Be modest in your bearing and subdue your voice, for the most unpleasant of voices is the braying of the ass." [The Holy Qur'an, Surah Luqman - 31:18-19]
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« Reply #3 on: Jun 12, 2008 08:22 PM »

salaam..I thought I posted this somewhere.. hmm maybe in the old board.. but a comment I saw stuck out on Suhebb Webbs blog , a comment for this story. I never thought about it before when I read this story, I thought as others , how wonderful .. but this is an important point

I had not seen that!

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June 12th, 2008 at 10:06 am
nice story - but what happens to mary anne? just left like that? how dare a muslim man have an affair with a non mahram woman? and changes his mind as he pleases? no regrets on that? no wonder the muslims are held on such low esteem by others.



While I am not condoning the affair and not judging the brother as well, what struck me is that he actually got to know his wife better again after her unique and sincere request and left his lover to work on his marriage.  What seems to happen nowadays, more often than not, is that the man leaves his wife of so many years for a lover without any regrets.

Here is a man who realized his mistakes and rectified it.  Otherwise, his wife and son would have been the sorry ones.  Someone was bound to get hurt - his wife and son or Mary Anne.  It was a no win win situation.

The Almighty Allah says,

"When a servant thinks of Me, I am near.
When he invokes Me, I am with him.
If he reflects on Me in secret, I reply in secret,
And if he acknowledges Me in an assembly,
I acknowledge him in a far superior assembly."

- Prophet Muhammad (SAW), as reptd by Abu Huraira
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« Reply #4 on: Jun 12, 2008 11:52 PM »

salaam
Yes sister Halima you are right , but I was thinking. What if his wife did not make that request, what if it just did not come to her mind?
Another thing is that all the places that I have read this story, nowhere did it say s its an actual true story. Maybe its a fictional story written by someone just to teach a lesson?

Another one of the comments in brother Suhaib Webbs blog about this story said that he would be happier if he saw the husband not divorcing her but marrying MaryAnne as well.  I wonder if that would even make a difference to the hurt the first wife would suffer? Allahu alim

yah I think its posted in the old board in the bros section w a whole bunch of other marriage stories/jokes. It is better the way you posted in a separate one.
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« Reply #5 on: Jun 13, 2008 10:38 AM »

salam

I've read this email before, the version I read was chinese, ie the people involved were all chinese.....


Wassalaam

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« Reply #6 on: Jun 14, 2008 11:16 AM »

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Yes sister Halima you are right , but I was thinking. What if his wife did not make that request, what if it just did not come to her mind?

Then Mary-Anne would have been the happy one.  I won't say lucky.

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Another thing is that all the places that I have read this story, nowhere did it say s its an actual true story. Maybe its a fictional story written by someone just to teach a lesson?


I agree. Fiction or true, I think there is a lesson in there for married men to think about why they married their wives in the first place.  Aging is not a good excuse to leave your wife for a younger woman.

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Another one of the comments in brother Suhaib Webbs blog about this story said that he would be happier if he saw the husband not divorcing her but marrying MaryAnne as well.  I wonder if that would even make a difference to the hurt the first wife would suffer? Allahu alim


Well Islam allows that anyway.  And if the wife agrees to it, then no problem.

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yah I think its posted in the old board in the bros section w a whole bunch of other marriage stories/jokes. It is better the way you posted in a separate one.
JazakAllahu Kair and Asalamualaikum

I wasn't a regular visitor of the bros section on the old board.  And I haven't visited the bros section on this board at all. I understand now why I missed it in the first place.

salam

I've read this email before, the version I read was chinese, ie the people involved were all chinese.....


Wassalaam

What a story then!

The Almighty Allah says,

"When a servant thinks of Me, I am near.
When he invokes Me, I am with him.
If he reflects on Me in secret, I reply in secret,
And if he acknowledges Me in an assembly,
I acknowledge him in a far superior assembly."

- Prophet Muhammad (SAW), as reptd by Abu Huraira
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