Don't bother convincing dad lawyer is crap, go and set up appointments with several lawyers and pick one who you click with, then tell dad you have switched lawyers, it's too precarious a time to be gentle and considerate, be firm and stay strong.
I'm in the UK, there must be someone on this board in the states who has legal knowledge, or at least can provide names of good lawyers.
Sweetheart, I am absolutely in the nightmare you're at, and after the court appearances I feel like I'm dying slowly inside. It hurts like anything all the lies and having to face ex, and his arrogance and bare faced lies.
I'm leaving the Islamic reprecussions to Allah, if he has said there is punishment for the wrongdoer, and the transgressor who steals a persons rights then he will deal with him as he sees fit in this life and the hereafter. I forgive nothing, I'll demand my justice when the hour comes if it comes down to it.
Get a good lawyer, and hide every last asset you possibly can.
Get written confirmation that ex has this land in his name in pakistan ie, amount of land, when it was bought, how much it is and get it in writing from a surveyor or someone official, and then demand a share in the financial settlement, ask for cash in dollars not strips of land you will never see.
Also when you do work through your financial setltement, tell the lawyer ex must pay for your maintenance during your iddat period as it is encumbent on you and you will not be able to work for that period of time. Demand everything.
There may now come people on this board who will say, ask for one outfit and leave the marriage...... but you were due maintenance during your marriage to your ex, you are due the mehr, you are due the gifts given to you, I'd say anything you get will pretty much even out that which was due to you, although prolly wont even begin to approach that which he should have spent on you during your marriage and now at your divorce.
Stay strong, pray lots of salat, it's my only solace at the moment, that and the thought that I cannot possibly curl up and die and leave my babies at the mercy of the monster I married.
There is a happy life waiting for you inshallah, you've just got to keep going till you turn the corner.
And I cannot emphasise enough, get a GOOD LAWYER.